10 Biggest Pitfalls You Must Avoid to Increase Your Value Instantly

Have you ever wondered what could be holding you back from becoming who you want to become? Maybe you are not being valued in your relationship. Or you are stressing out trying to prove yourself at work. Hold on tight because you are about to discover the secrets to increase you value instantly.

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What You Must Avoid to Increase Your Value:

1. Self-doubt:

Have you ever imagined something so big but knocked it down quickly because you doubted your ability to achieve it? Self-doubt is a dangerous disease that dethrones you from your seat of power. It puts you at the mercy of others who believe in themselves.

Moreover, the more you doubt your capabilities the more your limitations grow. And the more limitations you have, the lower the value of your achievements will be.

Remember, you are always as big or as small as you think you are. Therefore to increase your value you have to avoid self-doubt at all cost. By dreaming fearlessly and believing in yourself, you will surely overcome your self-doubt. To learn more on how to overcome your self-doubt, check this out.

2. Negativity:

How do you describe negativity? In short, negativity is a pattern of seeing nothing but the bad, ugly and limitation in every situations, things or people. Indeed, your attitude says a lot about who you are. Whether you are in a team or in a relationship, whenever you are perceived as a negative person your value takes a hit.

Conversely, you can increase your value through adopting a positive outlook and attitude. Positivity helps you attract people of value into your life. Which in turn improves your chances of becoming more valuable. Like the saying goes, iron sharpens iron. Also, positivity fuels you with a tremendous amount of energy to venture into things that help you grow as a person.

3. Wasting Time:

Any time wasted is time that you can never get back. So how do you use your time? Do you spend your time doing things that improve your value or things that degrade you? At any given moment, there are only two activities that you can be doing with your time. Activities that build you up or activities that tear you down.

A few examples of time-wasting activities that tear you down include: fighting with others, gossiping or whining about others, and engaging in substance abuse.

Alternatively, you can build yourself up and increase your value by pursuing activities that help you and the people around you flourish. Rather than fighting with others, look for ways to learn new things together.

Basically avoid slacking or idle time. Lest you forget, your time is your most precious possession.

4. Complaining:

Most importantly, if you are not willing to put in the work to fix what is bothering you then quit complaining. your value increases when you fix issues not when you complain about issues.

Similar to wasting your time, complaining wastes your energy. In other words, complaining is unproductive. Instead of complaining, focus on problem-solving. the more problems you solve, the more valuable you become. So, the next time you vent or whine about things think of ways to solve them and increase your value.

5. Emotional Eruption:

Once in a while, you will get frustrated by your loved ones or treated unfairly by people at work. The truth is that the way you handle the things thrown at you will determine how others value you.

Emotional eruption is outburst or explosion of negative feelings. In most cases, emotional eruption occurs when you lack emotional intelligence. Emotional intelligence helps you control and navigate your emotions when dealing with others. By allowing your negative emotions control your actions, you are expressing your instability and inability to lead others as well as manage events.

Altogether, you should train your mind to be stronger than your feelings if you want to increase your value.

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6. Blame Game:

Do you ever find it difficult owning up to your mistake? Or are you pointing a finger at others because you feel like it wasn’t your fault? The blame game is when you shift responsibility to others for something that went wrong instead of finding a solution to the problem.

Generally, people hate those who play the blame game. And no one would like to work with you if you are known for playing the blame game. Because it is a dirty game that leads no where.

Moreover, playing the blame game makes you seem immature to others. Given that you are always looking for ways to deflect your mistakes to others. One effective way to improve your value is to quit the blame game.

By quitting the blame game, you show that you are courageous, mature and accountable.

7. Taking the Easy Road:

There are two roads: the easy road and the tough road. Guess which road majority of people take? If you guessed the easy road, you’re correct. It is also known as the path of least resistance. The easy road feels better in the short-term but in the long-run the tough road is more rewarding. For instance, it’s easier to watch a full series of a Netflix show for hours than to watch a Youtube video that teaches you a new skill or useful lesson.

Following the path of least resistance can become a habit. We make choices based on what is easiest, most pleasant, or least painful. – Thomas Oppong

By all means avoid doing the easy stuff or looking for the easy way out. Challenge yourself to do the difficult things that no one else wants to do if you want to increase your value.

8. Avoiding Risk:

When last did you avoid taking a risk? As easy as it sounds anything worth having involves a certain level of risk. Taking risks can help you break through self-limiting beliefs. In turn, this helps increase your value. Because  when have you summoned the courage to do the unthinkable you become empowered. Not only are you empowered, you also earn respect from others.

Perhaps you still don’t think you need to take any risk in life. Try this. Name one successful people you look up to and ask yourself what risk did they take in life? Indeed when you meet anyone of high value like the CEO of a company or president of a nation. Remember that such a person took some risk to get to that position. Rather than run away from risk, challenge yourself to go against all odds to increase your value.

By the way you have to identify, analyze and plan for every risk you want to take. Ensure that you have weighed all the possible outcomes, costs and benefits before taking the risk. Once you have calculated your risk and the benefits out-weigh the costs then set measures in place for a successful outcome.

9. Over-promising and Under-delivering:

At all cost, stand by words. This means paying attention to the promises you make and following through with your promises. Even the simplest promises like keeping to time matter. Unfortunately, your value goes down anytime you say one thing and do the other thing. Although people who we love and care about may forgive you for under-delivering, they may not forget that you over-promised.

So always ensure that you are not taking on more than you can adequately deliver on. While this is not an excuse for you to avoid responsibility, it’s just a reminder to always hold yourself accountable for your words. For example, when you promise your son to take him to the zoo for his birthday but fail to do so with no explanation. Even worse, you are notorious for doing this to your son on different occasions. Subconsciously, your son may begin to think less of you and what you say.

It is important to realize that from time to time things beyond your control will happen that prevent you from delivering on your promises. But you shouldn’t make it a habit to under-deliver. And always communicate effectively ahead of time to other party if something uncontrollable gets in the way. By doing this you increase your value and gain more trust.

10. Self-Indulgence

Self-indulgence is characterized by lack of self-control. Besides, your self-control has a lot to do with your level of self-discipline.

Typically a good indication of self-indulgence is when you find yourself doing unnecessary things solely for the pleasure you derive. Or you are overly consumed by your selfish interests then you are likely dealing with self-indulgence. For instance, self-indulgence lead people to doing drugs, wasteful shopping sprees and other reckless behaviors that end in regret.

Also, self-indulgence leads you to instant gratification. And sacrificing long-term rewards for short-term gains. Interestingly, self-indulgence could be as a result of one’s low-self esteem. Possibly caused by dissatisfaction in one’s self. To increase your value you need to decrease your level of self-indulgence. Your self-worth seems to improve drastically when you know that you can control your impulses, actions and excessive desires.

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