Why Settling for Less Than You Deserve is Very Deadly

Imagine yourself at the end of your life. Would you be proud of the life you are living now? By far, the most common thing among many people on their death bed is regret. Sadly, if you sit by the bedside of most dying people, you hear words like: ‘I wish I had lived up to my full potential‘. Not only do these words pierce the soul, they carry the pain of settling for less than you deserve and other fascinating things you’re about to discover.

Can you name one thing you have always wanted for yourself? Specifically, something you truly you know you deserve. Now permit me to ask. Are you still going after it or did you give up and settle for whatever? No matter where you’re headed, settling for less than you deserve is very deadly.

10 Signs that you are settling for less than you deserve

• You are always giving excuses for your situations and actions
• What you do is no longer challenging
• The people in your circle have lower standards than the people you admire
• You have given up on learning
• Constantly convincing yourself that you are happy when you truly know you’re not
• You are always jealous of people doing better than you or you hate on successful people all day
• You have become problem-oriented and completely blind to solutions
• Procrastination has taken you to the ‘never-land’
• You have quit dreaming big
• You feel like you can do better

“If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking.” – Steve Jobs

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Why is settling for less than you deserve deadly?

1.Lack of Fulfillment

What is fulfillment? Simply put, fulfillment is doing what you have desired and in the end, loving what you have done. Fulfillment is very important because it is the true source of the joy and happiness that fuels your existence. Alternatively, it’s the kind of inner satisfaction that makes anyone around you cherish what you have.

Are you living a life of fulfillment? Whenever you settle for less than you deserve, you end up feeling empty on the inside. This feeling of emptiness is the void that lack of fulfillment in your life creates. People around you may not notice how incomplete you feel but deep down within you, is a battle between the life you have now and the life you want.

Obviously, the reason for the lack of fulfillment you experience is because as a human, you are created to become the best you possibly could. Thus, whenever you settle for less than you deserve, your desire to become more begins to wrestle with your choice.

2. Scarcity Lifestyle

Most times, settling for less than you deserve can make you operate in a scarcity mindset. The dangerous thing with operating in a scarcity mindset is that your lifestyle shrinks and so does your possibilities. Hence, you adopt what is called a scarcity lifestyle. And you can never flourish when you have a scarcity lifestyle.

For instance, you think that there’s not enough money, jobs, good partners and so on for everyone out there. Therefore, you give up and begin settling for less than you have always dreamed of.

Conversely, an abundance lifestyle is the mentality that catapults you into dominance wherever you find yourself. An abundance lifestyle comes from adopting an abundance mindset. You soar beyond your contemporaries and your limitations.

Besides, an abundance mindset makes you feel like a king or royalty. How many kings or royalties do you know that act small or operate in lack? Kings and royalties are know to radiate elegance and attract the finest life can offer. You are royalty, treat yourself like one.

3. The Pain of Regret

Whether in your business, social or family life no pain endures past the pain of regret. Yes, you may lose some money in business or a lose a loved one, eventually you will bounce back. Sometimes even stronger than you were before the loss.

However, when you intentionally miss the business opportunity that could have escalated you to the top, the pain always seems to linger. Regrets of accepting something below your capacity causes a lot of pain in the future. Especially, when you encounter someone who is prospering from the taking the same opportunity you should have taken. Those people who never accepted less begin to remind you of how much more you could have become.

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How do you stop settling for less than you deserve?

The unique thing about you is that as a human being, you have the power to make choices that will affect the course of your life. Other creatures, do not have the privilege and power to make life-changing choices. Now, the question is: are you ready to stop settling for less than you deserve? If your answer is yes, then how do you stop settling for less than you deserve? Here are some simple yet effective tips to help you out:

1. Don’t Avoid Change:

With change you have two options: embrace it and grow or avoid it and become extinct. Life is all about change while change is all about adaptation.

As you progress through life, changes definitely will take place. Both the changes you can control and the ones you cannot. Changes come in different forms: physical, emotional or relationship changes. Some changes will favor you and some will not. What really matters is your ability to grow through the changes without throwing in the towel.

Truth be told, if you live your life running away from changes you will never live your best life. Even the simplest forms of success require certain degrees of change. Think about any successful person you know. This could be that one person you secretly admire or compare yourself to. Do you think that person is on the same level overall as he or she was last year?

For as much as you can, be on the forefront of change and don’t let change make you live your life settling for less than you deserve.

2. Boost Your Self-confidence:

Whatever you settle for in life has a lot to do with your self-confidence. A great self-confidence gives you a high self-esteem. Undoubtedly, when your self-esteem is high you have a clear sense of your self-worth. Hence, you won’t settle for less than you deserve.

Unfortunately, most people settle for less than they deserve because of self-doubt. What self-doubts do you carry with you? It’s important to know that self-doubt makes you accept anything you get instead of what you deserve. For help overcoming your self-doubt, read this.

3. Always Shoot beyond the Stars:

What type of goals are you setting for yourself? Do your goals scare you? Or are you just playing it safe? To live up to your full potential, you have to go beyond good enough. Meaning that you should always aim at doing a little bit more than ordinary. Form the habit of going the extra mile in everything you do.

“If better is possible then good is not enough.” – Benjamin Franklin

It’s quite interesting to discover that most people do not go as far as they expect to go in life. You may be thinking the reason for this is that most people don’t set any goals for themselves. Actually, the problem is that they set very small goals that anyone can achieve with eyes closed. These small goals can keep you always operating small in life. Moreover, small goals do not motivate you. Instead, set ambitious goals that inspire you to live your best life. Ambitious goals are powerful because they help you grow beyond your limitations.

Not to mention, ambitious goals magically bring out the greatness you never knew existed in you. It has been said that you never know how far you can go until you try. Are you settling for normal or ambitious goals? When last did you set goals that stretched you? If you are struggling with setting and achieving ambitious goals, you should read this.

4. Periodically Assess Your Position

Set a time period to assess your life. The period could be annually or every six months. This helps you take an inventory of your past achievements. According to Jim Collins, ‘good is the enemy of great.” Never dwell in your past success for too long that you become too comfortable to grow.

Moreover, periodic assessment helps you recalibrate when you need to take the next step. Through recalibration, you stay updated and equal to any given task. In fact, periodic assessment helps you maintain a healthy pace and avoid lagging behind in life.

“Even if you’re on the right track, you’ll get run over if you just sit there.” – Will Rogers

Always realize that life is a journey not a destination. Therefore, embrace the journey and makes sure that you are on the right track at all times. As long as you’re progressing in the right direction you will always have a great life.

5. Always Avoid the Easy Stuff

Sometimes in your life, you will arrive at a point when you have to pick between doing what is hard and what is easy. Despite the hard stuff being so uncomfortable, in the longterm it always pays off. Commit to always doing the things that will cost you now but pay you later. By all means, avoid sacrificing longterm goals for short term gains.

My personal experience:

As a college student I remember a time taking the easy road out cost me so much. Interestingly, I was taking about five courses that semester and had all A’s prior to the final exam. However, the week before the final exam something came over me and it’s what I’ll refer to as ‘the-easy-road-syndrome.’

What happened was that I had the choice to attend all the review sessions and study sessions that were scheduled in the evening. My thought was that the exam will be nothing that I haven’t seen before. So why bother myself attending review and study sessions when I could do all the review by myself in my dorm room. I convinced myself that I would cover a lot more material than what would be covered in the review sessions. Indeed, these were justifications I had to avoid walking around campus from hall to hall at night in the cold Montana weather.

At last, my choice backfired on me as I walked into three of my final exams clueless on what was going on as most of the students seemed to know something I didn’t. In one final exam, all students walked in with text books. Boom! it was an open book exam after all, and I didn’t get the memo. The other two exams were way different topics and materials from what I was expecting. Long story short I ended up with a lower GPA that semester. This cost me a potential scholarship, Dean’s list and a competitive internship experience. Needless to say, I learned the hard way about settling for the easy road.

Conclusion

Ultimately, settling for less than you deserve will leave you unfulfilled and living below your potential. Decide today to turn you live around for the best. By following the tips you have read about here, you will not only get what you deserve but you will attract greatness into your life.

Remember, you were created to be the best version of yourself, to live a happy life, to grow and empower others. And above all to make a lasting positive impact here on earth. Nothing and no one can stop you from living your best life.

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