Have you ever woken up and dreaded going to work? Even on a Friday morning, a control freak boss could make waking up to work feel like you are in the middle of a nuclear explosion. As the saying goes: people don’t quit their companies, they quit their boss.
Surprisingly, according to author of the 7 Hidden Reasons Employees Leave – Leigh Branham: “89% of bosses wrongly believe their employees quit because they want more money.” On the other hand, a survey by Lifeworks indicates that “76% of employees who don’t feel valued at work are seeking other opportunities.” Apparently, these issues always gets traced to the relationship between the employee and the boss. Are you happy at work? Do you hate your company or is your boss really the problem?
Why should you even care if you work for a control freak boss?
You spend a great amount of your day at work and that’s a part of your life that you will never get back. With this in mind, you need to be in an environment that is free from toxic people. You deserve to be in an environment that doesn’t frustrate you as well as diminish you. Moreover, the type of boss you work for is vital in ensuring you have a productive career and harmonious life.
5 Ways to Identify a Control Freak Boss:
Perhaps you’re having difficulties identifying whether your boss is the controlling type, here are the signs you should look out for:
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My Way
A sure sign that you are working for a controlling boss is when the only right way to get things done is his/her way. This type of boss is not open to other people’s perspectives and does not support an innovative atmosphere. The boss’s idea is always elevated but yours never counts. A boss that has the ‘my way‘ attitude never gives you credit for a successful project done another way. Change is always difficult for this type of boss; except the change that he/she initiates.
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Command
If your boss dictates, barks orders at you, or gives authoritative demands rather than provide guidance then your boss is a controlling type. A boss that bullies everyone around does not support and encourage a thriving work environment. Working under a boss that always commands, will drain you emotionally and psychologically.
A control freak boss who commands employees may get things done in the short term. However, in the long run a controlling boss will negatively impact your morale. Another disadvantage of having a boss that commands you is that it makes you not want to approach the boss when you need help.
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Creates Dependency
With a control freak boss, there is stifling professional growth and development. Self-sufficiency is not the goal of a control freak boss when it comes to equipping his/her workers. The boss’s intention is to feel needed which creates a dependent work environment. Whenever you find yourself on a team that is continuously unable to perform without the power or aid of the boss, you need to find a new team or speak up. Join a team with a boss that fosters interdependence.
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Mediocre performance
Another symptom you need to identify is when your boss does not bring out the best in you or does not motivate you to perform at a higher level. On a team ran by the controlling type of boss, you will always doubt yourself and abilities to deliver. A control freak boss never celebrates wins (big or small). Hence, making the team members feel unappreciated and under valued which results in low moral and average performance.
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Lack of trust
Micromanaging is an indicator of lack of trust. Bosses who micromanage do not trust anyone to do an outstanding job except for themselves. A team where everyone withholds information, acts skeptical, and avoids the discussion of issues harbors a controlling boss. Certainly, this type of boss doesn’t honor his/her commitments to the team but expects team members to honor theirs. Controlling bosses create self-imposed stress on themselves since they cannot trust you to get the work done.
Also, do not take the lack of trust from your controlling boss as your lack of competence. A control freak boss never gets anything accomplished unless they are part of the project. Ironically, you may even be more qualified to do the work but a controlling boss still won’t thing you are qualified enough. At all cost, do not lose sleep over a micromanaging boss that doesn’t trust your abilities. Remember, your micromanaging boss could just be insecure and may have a depleted emotional bank account from painful experiences in the past.
Next, you will learn how to deal with a control freak boss instead of sitting at your desk beating yourself up all day.
How to Handle a Control Freak Boss:
Now that you know the signs of a controlling boss, the following techniques will help you deal with a control freak boss.
1. Don’t Argue in Public:
The first rule is to never argue with your micromanaging boss in public. Arguing with your micromanaging boss in public makes everything worse. Since your control freak boss already has a tendency to control, which stems out of insecurities, arguing in public will only make your boss want to prove himself/herself even more. Take all your discussions and arguments into a private meeting with your boss.
At a private place and conducive time, express your grievances, feelings and concerns about how you are being treated. Alternatively, you may ask your boss to give an honest feedback on your performance and ways he or she could like to see you improve. Usually, when people are approached from a non-combative standpoint, they tend to comply with the needs and demands of others.
2. Don’t Take it Personal:
As mentioned previously, your control freak boss has some personal demons in the past or present that he/she is dealing with. In other words, just because your boss is controlling, doesn’t mean it is your fault. Therefore, if you take the micromanaging issue personal, you may ‘lose your head’ your head at work and react in a way that you may regret later.
Never let your productivity decline as a result of your controlling boss. Remember, regardless of what your boss does or thinks, your work will always speak for you. Also, your colleagues will always notice your work even when they cannot speak out or take a stand for you.
No matter what, never lose hope. Believe it or not, your experience with a controlling boss is setting you up a greater and better career. You cannot reach the finish line with out facing hurdles along the way.
3. Seek Help
When all else fails, seek for help to handle your controlling boss. Some big companies have established human resources departments that handle workplace relationships.
Consult with your human resources personnel and discuss ways to objectively make your workplace more favorable for you as well as your boss. Your intent should not be to get your boss fired. Go into the discussion with a win-win mindset. Meaning that you get what you want and your controlling boss gets the help that he/she needs to become a better manager.
Lastly, seek advice from experienced and mature friends, family members and colleagues that have had similar encounter at work. If none of these work for you, the suggestion will be to find another job. You deserve a happy life and not a life spent working in a toxic environment or around toxic people.
You can always reach out to us if you need coaching or advice on handling this: connect@livebywhy.com.
You deserve to work for someone who is vested in your growth, let’s you express your creative side, reinforces you positively and empowers you.
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